How to Explain Your ADHD to the People You Love
Scripts, Letters and the 60-Second Explanation for Your Partner, Parents, Friends and Boss
- Scripts, letters and the 60-second explanation
- Which book to give to whom
- Say it once, say it well
Who it's for
You have ADHD, and the people you love keep asking "but why?". Be welcome! You may have a lot of questions. This book is for you.
You know your ADHD better than anyone. But when your partner, your parents or your boss ask what it is, the explanation comes out too long, too defensive, or not at all. This book gives you the words: short, kind, backed by research, and ready to use.
Written by an author with ADHD, with true stories from his own life, and every fact checked against published research.
- ADHD in 60 seconds: your elevator explanation, in 10-second, 60-second and 5-minute versions
- Scripts for your partner, your parents, your siblings and your friends
- Telling work: three options, your rights, and an adjustment request that gets a yes
- Ready-made letters you can copy, adapt or send
- Calm answers to "everyone's a little ADHD" and "it's just an excuse"
- Which book to give to whom, so they can keep learning without you teaching every night
Made to be given
Many readers receive this book from someone with ADHD who wants to be understood. Inside the front cover there's a gift page for your own words.
What's inside
- Telling Has a Name: Disclosure, and Why Hiding Costs More Than You Think
- ADHD in 60 Seconds: The Elevator Explanation
- Your Partner Already Knows Something; Give Them the Name
- In One Study, Nearly Half the Parents Had ADHD Too: Telling Mum and Dad
- Your Sibling Kept a Score You Never Saw: Telling Brothers, Sisters and Friends
- You Don't Have to Say the Word to Get the Help: Telling Work
- Writing It Down Works: Letters You Can Copy, Adapt or Send
- "Everyone's a Little ADHD": What to Do When They Don't Get It
Questions
Is this medical advice?
No. It's an evidence-based guide with a source for every claim. It never replaces a qualified professional, and it reminds you often to see one.
Is it based on research?
Yes. Every factual claim cites published research or clinical guidelines, listed at the end of the book.
Is it long?
Short, practical chapters. Each one ends with a few concrete actions to try this week.
